I am a little bit of a romantic. You
see, my parents met in a castle. Seriously—a real, 11th century
medieval Irish castle, complete with spires, drafty fire places and all. So
this was the illusion that I grew up under: you meet your husband in a castle.
For me, the plan was always simple: visit a foreign country, meet eyes across
the room (said room inside of a castle), fall in love, get married. This was a great
plan. Totally attainable. Easy. That plan, however, was interrupted when I met
a somebody named Garrett Ruhland on the 4th floor of South Wonders
Dorm at Michigan State University.
I’ll be honest; our meeting was not romantic. In
it there was no foreign castle, no eyes being met across the room, no heart
palpitations. Well, maybe there were palpitations. Yeah, there were definitely
palpitations—but maybe just not the first time we met, as I was under,
ahem, certain influences (give me a pass here, it was the first week of
college). My first recollection of meeting Garrett came the next morning, when
he showed up in a picture taken the night before. “Who’s this?” I asked Shannon
(cousin/roommate) of the guy in the back of the photo covering his
face. “I think his name is Garrett,” she said, and the picture was passed over.
Next night: Audrey Garrett kismet meeting take 2.
Now this is the night that sticks out in my head. I, the perfect college
student, was under no influence. I can’t say the game for Garrett. I can
actually say quite the opposite. But I won’t. Anyway, I was in his dorm,
sitting at his roommate’s desk. Garrett, all cute and sassy and full of liquid
courage, said his first words to me then. “You’re a redhead. I dig redheads.
[Insert wildly inappropriate comment here]”. Sorry, kids—what Garrett said to
me on that fateful night will not be repeated. But I will tell you this;
he made me blush and certainly arrested my attention. Because what he said was
so inappropriate yet so amusing, I didn’t know how to respond. My mother would
have laughed. My father would have been shocked. And with those words (that
cannot be repeated), the fortress walls of my meet-your-soul-mate-in-a-castle
fantasy were knocked down. And I sure am happy as all heavens that they were.
I really liked Garrett. Like, really, really liked
Garrett. But we were so young, and he was a wild, charming college boy. So, as
to not scare him off, I moved in on him slowly and coolly. So coolly, in fact,
that when he told me he didn’t want a girlfriend, I shrugged and said “I didn’t
even think of us that way” (and then went to my dorm room and cried). He asked me to be
his girlfriend two weeks later. We were engaged in four years, married in six. Monday, July 22nd, will mark our 1 year wedding anniversary.
So, I didn’t get my castle. But this is what I did
get: the love of my life. I got to marry my best friend. I get to laugh with
him every single day. I get to wake up excited and happy every morning because
of him. I have loved being in love with Garrett Ruhland for the past six
years, and I know I will go on loving him every single day of every single year
for the rest of my life. I’d say that’s a pretty good toss-up.